Why We Can’t Have Nice Things

💔 The Lost Promise of Connection

We could have had nice things:

  • Emotional honesty that didn’t need decoding
  • Intimacy that didn’t need leases or lifestyle checklists
  • Relationships that felt like home, not negotiations

But instead, we chose:

  • Designer baby clothes over messy joy
  • Co-signers over co-dreamers
  • Optics over openness

We traded the sacred for the strategic.

🎭 The Performance Economy

We built lives that:

  • Look perfect in photos
  • Feel hollow in silence
  • Reward calculation over compassion

We vilify those who see through us.
We obsess over how we’re seen, not who we are.
We enforce boundaries that protect our image, not our soul.

🧠 The Cost of Strategy

We chose:

  • Leverage over love
  • Control over curiosity
  • Winning over wondering

And now we’re stuck with curated lives that look perfect but feel hollow. We could have had nice things like:

  • Magnanimity instead of manipulation
  • Relationships free from silent transactions
  • Love that isn’t contingent on social capital

But no:

  • The genuine are sidelined
  • Vulnerability is a liability
  • Truth is a relic, not a virtue

We chose strategy. We chose to enforce one-way boundaries. We chose to “get there”—never mind who we step over. Because we didn’t want nice things. We wanted leverage. And now we’re all stuck— performing, pretending, while the ones who refuse to play are left wondering if being genuine is now a liability. That’s why we can’t have nice things

Because nice things require truth.
And truth doesn’t trend.

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