Gary July 27th, 2012
Why is this happening to me?
The bottom line, after all has been said and done, is acceptance. Anything and everything you hear from supportive family and friends, read in books or online or understand through analytical thinking is moot, as those are no more than means to justify to your mind why things are the way they are. They are not solutions.
The WHY is an impediment; a means to an end that becomes an end in itself; it overshadows and envelopes us, keeps us engrossed to the point where we lose sight of the reason we asked WHY in the first place – to justify to ourselves why we need to accept what is happening. Any way you justify it, all explanations are just that; explanations; and they are worthless if you do not use them to achieve the effect they were designed to deliver – acceptance of your situation, regardless of what the answer is to your WHY.
It does not matter what one believes; whether it be destiny being pre-written or the course of our lives being in our own hands by virtue of our power of choice. That would be akin to being concerned about the lock and neglecting the key. The key being acceptance of the sorrow, regardless of it being pre-destined or brought about by the exercise of our own choices.
Belief is a tool for achieving effects; it is not an end in itself.
— Peter Carroll