Hope

Hope is like a drug; one takes it and forgets one’s sorrows. Like any other drug, when the intoxication wears, one feels miserable. Hope is more dangerous and addictive than any other drug, because it is legal, encouraged, free and readily available, and when the illusion is shattered, one sinks into a greater depression. We […]

Security

We constantly seek security, whether it be money in the bank, owning as opposed to renting or job security. There is safety and comfort in permanence, or at least what we perceive as permanent. There are four factors to consider in our quest for the security of what we consider permanence: It indicates that we […]

Acceptance

Is destiny pre-written or is the course of our lives in our own hands by virtue of our power of choice? I believe destiny is the default setting, and choice is our ability to customize. Life is like a game of cards; the hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free […]

Baby Steps

When life is out of control, hopelessness sets in and one wonders how will life go on, remember the answer, “One day at a time”. As long as one is motivated, the key to accomplishing any task that is overwhelming due to its magnitude, appears unattainable or beyond one’s ability, is, ‘one step at a […]

Worry

If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever. — His Holiness The Dalai Lama XIV Worrying is worthless. When you stop focusing […]

Special Someone

The concept of having one “special someone” in one’s life is a recipe for devastation that would result from when such person is no longer in one’s life. Instead we need to expand that circle to include everyone, even connecting with strangers. Draw larger circles so the world is one’s family. The more emotional intimacy we […]

Happiness

I believe that the purpose of life is to be happy.  Happiness comes from: (a)  accepting unhappiness as being a part of life, not hating or fighting against it. Hate being a negative emotion causes more unhappiness. The fact that there are ups and downs in life like an electrocardiogram, is proof that one is […]

Change Your World

The world around us is but a larger scale manifestation of the world within us. Our beings are self-contained worlds of their own with metaphorical governments, and corporations that control them. We determine the course of our lives by voting for the political party or candidate that best serves our needs, as in subscribing to […]