Is destiny pre-written or is the course of our lives in our own hands by virtue of our power of choice? I believe destiny is the default setting, and choice is our ability to customize. Life is like a game of cards; the hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free […]

Baby Steps

When life is out of control, hopelessness sets in and one wonders how will life go on, remember the answer, “One day at a time”. As long as one is motivated, the key to accomplishing any task that is overwhelming due to its magnitude, appears unattainable or beyond one’s ability, is, ‘one step at a […]


If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever. — His Holiness The Dalai Lama XIV Worrying is worthless. When you stop focusing […]

Special Someone

The concept of having one “special someone” in one’s life is a recipe for devastation that would result from when such person is no longer in one’s life. Instead we need to expand that circle to include everyone, even connecting with strangers. Draw larger circles so the world is one’s family. The more emotional intimacy we […]


I believe that the purpose of life is to be happy.  Happiness comes from: (a)  accepting unhappiness as being a part of life, not hating or fighting against it. Hate being a negative emotion causes more unhappiness. The fact that there are ups and downs in life like an electrocardiogram, is proof that one is […]